The month of July is designated for honoring those who have suffered the most inconsolable grief imaginable: the loss of a child. Although the grieving process is highly personalized, we have compiled a list of three ways you can support those who have been confronted with this inconceivable tragedy. Additionally, we have provided resources for those who have suffered the ultimate loss.
1. Say the child's name.
Sharing your favorite memories of the child, reminiscing on their unique personality traits and providing meaningful anecdotes may help validate the impact that the child left behind. It is important to ensure the bereaved that their child will never be forgotten.
2. Offer a helping hand.
Extending sympathy in the form of acts of service can help bereaved parents feel supported, especially in the days following the tragedy. Helping with basic tasks, like grocery shopping, cooking and babysitting the other children may lift added stress from the parents' shoulders.
It can be difficult to find the right words to comfort those coping with this loss. In truth, there are no words that can take the pain away. Instead, provide support to the bereaved by being present and offering a non-judgmental, listening ear.
“What works is your presence," said Dr. Gordon Livingston, psychiatrist and co-founder of National Bereaved Parents Awareness Month. "There’s no set of words that will work each time, but being there for someone in a supportive way is what provides the most consolation."
For those grieving in the wake of losing a child, we have compiled a list of helpful resources.
Compassionate Friends is a nonprofit organization devoted to providing comfort and support to grieving families.
National Institute for Trauma and Loss in Children provides valuable resources for therapists and bereaved loved ones.
Still Standing Magazine is an online publication written by and for those who have lost children.
Breakthrough.com provides online mental health therapy.
Cremation has been performed throughout human history, and the practice’s popularity has waxed and waned over time. Within the past century, cremation has become more widely accepted, and decorative urns are now regarded as beautiful, timeless keepsakes.
The earliest archaeological evidence suggests that cremation was practiced in the Stone Age (circa 3000 BC) in Europe and Japan, where simple pottery cremation urns have been discovered. Because these urns were fashioned using primitive tools, they weren’t very ornate.
Cremation practices became widespread in North America, Britain, Hungary, Italy, Spain and Portugal between 2500 - 1000 BC. During this time, cemeteries specifically devoted to housing cremated remains were established.
Between 27 AD and 395 AD, the practice of cremation became customary among Romans, particularly those in the upper class. Cremated remains were stored in highly decorated urns and housed in large, communal vaults.
Age of Constantine the Great
Early Christians considered cremation to be a pagan tradition, so by 400 AD, the practice was discouraged and earth burial became customary. For the next century and a half, this sentiment was upheld by a majority of the population.
By the early 1900s, modern cremation came to rise, specifically in North America. The Cremation Association of North America was established in 1915, and by the turn of the century, nearly 25% of all deaths resulted in cremation. Today, 50.2% of individuals opt for cremation for themselves or their loved ones.
Cremation has evolved so much so that there are currently a plethora of options to store cremated remains, including our "Blooming Bio-Urns," which are designed to grow into twelve different types of wildflowers.
Additionally, we offer a wide selection of decorative urns that make beautiful keepsakes. Visit our online catalog to learn about our reasonably priced urn options or call us anytime at (850) 466-5440.
"It's counterintuitive, perhaps, but obituaries have next to nothing do with death and absolutely everything to do with life," said Margalit Fox, the New York Times' obituary writer for upwards of 15 years.
While obituaries serve a variety of purposes, like spreading a notice of death to loved ones, they should focus on the impact of a life above all else. Because most of us don't have a memoir or a biography, our obituaries paint the most vivid pictures of our professional accomplishments, relational ties, significant life events and essence of our personality.
Whether you are preparing your own obituary in advance, or you are writing an obituary for a deceased family member, it is important to acknowledge the positive, lasting impact of the life lost.
Where to begin
Most obituaries start with the basics, like the individual's name, age and place of residence at the time of their death.
Instead of simply stating that the individual died, there are several ways to soften the impact. These phrases include:
• passed away
• crossed over
• went to be with his/her Lord
• passed peacefully
• departed this earthly life
• entered into eternal rest
• earned his/her way into heaven
• left this world
• was called home
Include significant events and important accomplishments
Often listed chronologically, obituaries mention individuals' birthday and place of birth, details about spouse and date of marriage, as well as significant educational and professional accomplishments.
Paint a picture of a life well-lived
In addition, acknowledge the specific contributions and designations the person made in life. It is also important to capture the essence of their personality. According to Catherine Garcia, a seasoned obituary writer, "When done right, obituaries have a way of making even the most ordinary person seem interesting."
Along with naming the family members who preceded the individual in death, as well as their survivors, the obituary should express the impact of their life and the pain of their loss. One of the best ways to accomplish this is to convey their character through the tone of your writing. For instance, if the deceased was popular for being funny, it would not be inappropriate to write the obituary in a lighthearted tone. Additionally, including a a sentence that illustrates a person's passions, like a cook's favorite recipe, can succinctly embody important aspects of their personality.
Announce memorial information
The best place to mention visitation, burial, funeral and memorial service details is through one or two sentences toward the end of the obituary. Additionally, many individuals list whether the deceased should be honored with flowers or charitable donations.
Finally, include a heartfelt message
If desired, you can include a special message from a loved one, a statement thanking medical staff, or a short prayer or quote as the last line in the obituary.
For a simple, complementary obituary template, click here.
For information on other ways to pre-plan, click this link or call us anytime at (850) 466-5440.
"Our flag does not fly because the wind moves it. It flies with the last breath of each soldier who died protecting it." -Unknown
Those who have sacrificed their lives in the line of duty deserve prestigious honor. At Family-Funeral & Cremation, we pledge to dignify veterans while respecting the wishes of their loved ones.
By providing discounted pricing and special touches for those who have made the ultimate sacrifice and their family members, we are dedicated to ensuring members of the armed forces receive the honorable funeral ceremony they earned by serving this country. We have fostered an extraordinary relationship with the Department of Veteran Affairs and offer many benefits and honors fit for service members' funerals.
These benefits include:
Additionally, service members are entitled to a burial at a national veteran's cemetery or a monetary benefit towards burial at a private cemetery.
Family-Funeral & Cremation is proud to orchestrate many burial ceremonies at the Barrancas National Cemetery, which encompasses 94.9 beautiful acres within the Naval Air Station Pensacola.
Burial at Barrancas National Cemetery is open to:
Our funeral staff is trained with a deep understanding of proper methods to create a dignified memorial service for members of the armed forces, and honor veterans based on traditions ingrained by their unique military branches.
For more information on how we can assist you and your family, please call us anytime at (850) 466-5440.
When preparing for the funeral of a loved one and a friend, it is important to keep manners and decorum top of mind. While the occasion is meant to help you process your grief, behaving offensively may interrupt the process for others.
To avoid stepping on any toes, it may be helpful to adhere to the following guidelines.
It's not the appropriate time to make a fashion statement, and it's certainly inappropriate to dress casually (i.e. baseball cap, tennis shoes). Your attire should reflect your feelings of sympathy, dignity and respect for the deceased and the bereaved.
When in doubt? Go the traditional route and wear a simple black dress or suit.
What to say when you're at a loss for words.
When speaking to close loved ones to the bereaved, you may feel pressure to say the exact right thing. Take this pressure off and focus on being sincere. When you overexert condolences, you may appear ingenuine and more insensitive than if you had not said a word.
Instead, share a fond memory of the deceased and make it short and sweet. The more you say, the more room you make for mistakes, inadverdantly saying something that comes off as insensitive.
Keep it simple! Stating something like, “My thoughts are with you,” or “I’m sorry for your loss,” shows your support without overdoing it.
This may be an ideal opportunity to teach your child about the cycle of life. If you're worried about your child's behavior, pick a seat near an exit for a quick escape to the nearest foyer.
For information on funeral planning, click here or call us anytime at (850) 466-5440.
Family-Funeral & Cremation is proud to be Pensacola's premier affordable cremation service. Today, nearly 40% of individuals opt for cremation for themselves or their loved ones. We have compiled a list of three benefits for choosing cremation over traditional burial.
1) Cremation is cost-effective
With today's average funeral costing upward of $10,000, it's no wonder cremations have risen in popularity. Because cremation eliminates the need for a casket or vault, a burial plot and embalming services, the total cost for funeral services is decreased.
At Family-Funeral & Cremation, we offer transparent, up-front pricing for our cremation services at a fraction of the average cost.
2) Cremation offers endless possibilities for memorializing
In recent years, there has been an influx of unique options meant to memorialize those who have been cremated. Along with having cremated remains buried, scattered in a meaningful location or displayed at home in an heirloom urn, individuals can also opt to have their ashes planted as a memorial tree, grown into a coral reef, locked into an hourglass, displayed as a firework show, mixed with paint to create a beautiful portrait, or even launched into space!
3) Cremation is more environmentally-friendly
Including saving land space, electing to be cremated can reduce your ecological footprint in other ways. First, there are less harmful chemicals, like formaldehyde, emitted into the environment from the embalming process. Cremation also saves trees by eliminating the need for wood used in caskets.
To learn more about cremation options, contact Family-Funeral & Cremation at (850) 466-5440.
In the wake of a death, it can be challenging to adequately encapsulate deep feelings of sympathy and sorrow in words. Sending flowers to the bereaved is a tried-and-true method of expressing love and support, but it is important to be aware of the messages that specific flowers symbolize.
We’ve compiled a list of the five most popular funeral flowers and their meanings, so you can express the emotions that are hard to put into words.
In this day and age, planning a funeral has become quite costly. In fact, since 1986, the price of an average funeral has jumped a whopping 225%. With funeral prices rising exponentially each year, families can expect to spend nearly $10,000 to celebrate the life of their loved one.
At Family-Funeral & Cremation, we work hard to ensure our funeral services are cost-effective, competitive and transparent.
According to the National Funeral Directors Association, the funeral services offered by Family-Funeral & Cremation cost only a fraction of the 2017 national average.
See our breakdown of the cost comparison below.
Unfortunately, many families overspend hundreds to thousands of dollars while funeral planning.
After a loved one passes, many funeral details must be tended to within 24 hours. In the midst of grieving, families are forced to make emotionally charged, costly arrangements.
At Family-Funeral & Cremation, we encourage individuals to pre-arrange their own funerals, locking in today’s prices tomorrow.
By pre-arranging your funeral, you can eliminate the risk of your family making unnecessary purchases based in grief and ease the stress that comes with making on-the-spot decisions.
Our pre-planning services can realistically reduce future out-of-pocket funeral expenses by at least 50-70%, with no interest payments as low as $25.00 per month.
For more information on our pricing call us anytime at 850-466-5440. Read more about our pre-planning services here.
While it is essential to create a death plan for the big things, like whether you wish to be cremated or buried, it is also important to take care of your funeral’s smaller details, like preferred floral arrangements, songs, hymns or post-ceremony food. These may seem like little things, but for your grieving loved ones, having them worked out in advance may lift a huge burden. By detailing exactly how you would like your life to be celebrated, you are giving those who are craving comfort in the wake of your loss more space to focus on what’s really important: healing.
As Maya Angelou said, “People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel.” To ensure that your funeral emits the feelings you radiated in life, tune into your five senses while pre-planning your ceremony.
First, decide how you would like the room to smell. Psychologically, our sense of smell is most linked to triggering memories. Tying in your favorite flowers, incense or candles can evoke a sense of nostalgia for your loved ones.
Now, think about the comforting touches you can add to your ceremony. Whether it’s the addition of soft seating, memory boxes containing significant mementos from your life or a simple register book, adding special touches to your ceremony can provide comfort for your guests.
Additionally, it is important to think about the visuals of the ceremony. Pre-planning the funeral’s décor, color scheme and lighting can create a more personalized aesthetic. Choosing which pictures to be displayed at your funeral service can be a huge undertaking for grieving loved ones, so having this taken care of can ease their stress.
Selecting songs that hold a special significance to you and your loved ones can make your ceremony more meaningful. Deciding whether your ceremony features a live performance, congressional singing or prerecorded music can take out the guesswork for your loved ones.
Pre-planning the menu that will be served at the post-ceremony reception can ease some of the responsibilities of your loved ones after your death. Choosing menu items that hold significance to you can trigger pleasant memories for your guests, providing a sense of comfort.
It is important to document your detailed plans on paper and to keep them in a place that is easily accessible after your death.
Family-Funeral & Cremation offers several funeral pre-planning options, easing your family’s burden of making decisions. Call today to schedule a meeting to receive guidance in planning your ceremony, burial or cremation, viewing before cremation, veteran arrangements and visitations.
Christmas can be a very difficult time for families who are grieving a loved one. If you will be missing someone you loved this holiday season. At Family-Funeral & Cremation Pensacola,FL we know how difficult loosing a loved one at Christmas can be. We work with you and your family to help in this time of loss. At Family-Funeral we work to make the memory of your loved one of our top priorities. Regardless of the time of year, we respect the families wishes and bring it all together for a very reasonable price. Regardless if you just lost a loved one or your looking to pre-plan and lock your final expenses into today's funeral cost, we are here to help. Contact us today for a tour of our facility and how you can save thousands on a funeral @ Family-Funeral & Cremation Pensacola, FL 850-466-5440.